Eternal Bliss

I have a confession.

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I very much dislike weddings.

Of course, since i grew up with sisters, i went through the motions of planning weddings, and looking at dresses, and getting caught up in the fantasy and the fairytale aspect of it all.

Lets just be honest, 
The idea of a wedding is much more appealing than the actual thing. 

Don't get me wrong, i love what it represents, the union of two people who want to only be with one another for the rest of their lives. i love that.
i love seeing my people i care about take the beautiful step into a new chapter of their life.
i love the beauty.
i love the anticipation.
i love the detail.

The thing i don't like about weddings is the pressure of perfection.
Guests have to behave perfectly.
The wedding has to look perfect.
The reception has to be perfect, you have to see everyone.
The food has to be perfect.
The dress
The hair.
The wedding party.
And if everything isn't perfect then your marriage won't last.

There are legitimately television shows in which strangers go to your wedding, rate aspects of it, and whoever wins gets an all-expense paid honeymoon.

Where has the love gone in weddings?

Now, sometimes this isn't the case; sometimes, weddings are intimate and simple and so focused on the love of two amazing humans that anything that goes wrong is quickly forgotten.

i just so often go to weddings where i dearly love the humans getting married, and they dearly love each other, and yet the stress of the wedding glints in their eyes and they just want to fade away.

i hope that if this post shows anyone anything, it is that, as a veteran to the wedding guest scene, no one is expecting more from your wedding than to see two people so in love that nothing else matters; and if there is someone who expects more than that, they should not be allowed to be there.

Bottom line:
Enjoy it. Everything about it. And desire a perfect marriage over a perfect wedding.